yikes if that's not a kick in the keister.

and 'they do it for themselves'... oh holy horrors.

call me a slow learner... but after 25 years [well, he was a musician and traveled 50% of the time we were together so maybe mathematically-speaking i'm not actually THAT dense?]... you would think i might have reached that conclusion sooner?

unless of course, i'd convinced myself... 'i was the 'perfect girlfriend'... until me, once 'perfect' became a disappointment... which means i'd spend the balance of the relationship trying to fix ME... in order to 'bring back that loving feeling'... omg... young women everywhere [ok young dudes, too]... don't be as dumb or as self-loathing as me.

it's not worth it and time flies, sisters.

thanks for another great piece, ellen!

:- ))) from the no longer down for the intermittent reinforcement branches!